Is Porn Another Form Of Infidelity In Marriage?

Pornography is an ever-growing trend all over the world creating a poor stereotype in young peoples minds of what to expect from relationships. Dress sense, body image and expectations are being programmed into everyday life and giving easily influenced people a totally wrong perception of what to expect from life and relationships. The average person, male or female, will find it hard to live up to these expectations.

Any person measuring themselves up against characters from porn are setting themselves up for a fall. People will change physically as the years march on, gravity takes its toll on some body parts while diet affects others Shibuya Kaho . Hair changes color or disappears. Stamina and libido gradually decrease. Anyone expecting themself or their partner to continue to measure up to the “standards” set by porn is likely to be in for a disappointment.

Imagine then how your partners feelings are going to be affected if they feel they are being measured up against a porn star? Unworthy, ugly, lacking and hurt would be a pretty fair start. Imagine if you were the one being measured up against a fantasy? Do you think you would be filled with confidence in your own looks and abilities?

Many couples use pornography as a source of excitement in a relationship. Using the fantasy together for mutual benefit is one thing — viewing it in secret for your own sexual gratification is another thing entirely. Anything kept secret from your spouse is not good for your marriage and is not limited to porn. A night out with friends when your spouse believes you are “working late”, frivolous spending of money your partner is not aware of, gambling behind your partners back — all these point to a problem in your relationship.

Sexual intimacy is something which should be kept inside the bounds of your marriage. It is something shared between a couple and not shared with anyone else. Love and trust are things which can be shared with other people in your life such as family and close friends. When sexual gratification is sought from a source external to your relationship then there is a problem which needs to be addressed. Do you think your partner would feel good knowing they cannot measure up to your sexual desires? Good communication between partners should help alleviate any perceived problem before any source of gratification external to your relationship creates even more.

Pornography is not a harmless diversion when it intrudes into a relationship this way. If it is not recognised by both partners as an accepted “stimulant” in the relationship then it is indeed an infidelity in your marriage. Keeping your sexual relationship as something special to be shared only with your spouse and steering clear of porn will go a long way towards building a great partnership with them.

This applies to all kind of pornography: strip clubs, looking at magazines, or using the internet. It is something you should stop right now because it is an intrusion to your relationship.

Most people tell themselves that it harmless and that it doesn’t mean anything. They are wrong. It creates problems for you and your spouse. First of all, using porn can make you addicted to it which is really bad for you as it will affect your life in bad way on more than one way. Countless have lost their spouse and family because of porn addiction.

Second of all, it is harmful for your intimate and sexual relationship with your spouse as statistics show that people, especially men, lose interest in their partner if their use pornography regularly. They tend to see the fantasy as the definition of sexy and gradually lose interest in their partner. I do not need to tell you why that is bad for you and your relationship.

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